Seven Vows of Marriage

With the beats of the DJ playing  latest tunes, the  beating   of dhols and nagadas , the well festooned stage  with all sorts of enhancing  creativity of the planners, the scrumptious creative catering, the  quirky wedding decor , passionate photographers,  he matching couple couture  we have come a long way to make the special even truly a larger than life extravaganza. Amidst all these something that is still existent among mounting trends of an Indian Hindu wedding is “ Saptapadi”  generally called as the “sath pheras”. These seven vows are the core of the Hindu weddings without which the wedding is incomplete.

But like all the many wedding  traditions  this ritual has also lost little essence as it is commonly observed in marriage as  it is only considered as a way to solemnize the weddings  instead of deeply understanding  the meaning of these pheras. The priests are seen chanting few mantras while the bride and groom take the vows around the holy fire (which signifies the energy   and the god being  the witness in the union).  The each phera around the holy fire holds its significance and it’s important  to know the true meaning of these as it’s good to know what promises a couple is making to each other to keep the wheels of married life rotating.

The First Phera: Stipulation & Nourishment

Groom’s Promise:“Om esha ekapadi bhava iti prathaman”.

The groom promises  to his bride which means that he will always love, cherish and nourish his wife and children and also wishes his wife to love, support and provide food to the family.

Bride’s Promise : “Dhanam dhanyam pade vadet”.

The Bride promises to honor the groom and share the responsibilities of the family and provide food, love and support to him.

The Second Phera: Peaceful Life and Good Wealth

Groom’s Promise: “Om oorje jara dastayaha” .

The groom promises to support his wife in ups and down forever and  will protect the family

Bride’s Promise: Kutumburn rakshayishyammi sa aravindharam”

Bride vows to stand side by side with her husband in protecting their family and home.

The Third Phera: Prosperity

Groom’s Promise : “Om rayas Santu joradastayaha”

The groom promises to work for the prosperity of his family. The groom also promises to be faithful to his wife and lead a spiritual life.

Bride’s Promise: “Tava bhakti as vadedvachacha”

The bride promises to be faithful to her husband and to support him.

The Forth Phera: Family

Groom’s Promise:   Om mayo bhavyas jaradastaya ha”

The Groom promises he will provide paramount support to their parents.  He declares his good fortune and sancity in life at marrying the bride.  He prays to God to bless them with a blissful   life and good children.

Bride’s Promise:  “Lalayami cha pade vadet.”

The Bride promises to love  her husband  in every way  and dress herself with jewellery  and flowers  to please her husband.

The Fifth Phera:  Prayer For offsprings

Groom’s Promise :  “Om prajabhyaha Santu jaradastayaha”

The Groom  prays that the couple be  blessed with every happiness and also their loved ones live long andenriched life.  May god bless them with  obedient, righteous and  brave children . The groom also promises to nourish their relationship with love and respect.

Bride’s Promise :   “Arte arba sapade vadet”

The bride  promises to stand by this side at all times in joy as well as grief . She vows to trust him and  support him  in responsibilities towards the children .

The Sixth Phera: Health

Groom’s Promise:  Rutubhyah shat padi bhava”.

The groom wishes for a happy and harmonious life together. He wishes for good health for them.

Bride’s Promise: –   “Yajne home shashthe vacho vadet”.

The bride promises to be always by his side and will participate in all the endeavours.

The Seventh Phera: Friendship

Groom’s Promise : “Om sakhi jaradastayahga.”

The Groom promises that with the last step together   from now on they will be a single entity and will be devoted towards his wife. They will be incomplete without each other

Bride’s Promise:  “Attramshe sakshino vadet pade.”

The bride declares   that she is elated on being his wife.  She promises to be truthful. She pledges that all she along with her husband will   do all the possible things to keep up the promises that have been made during the holy ritual.She wishes for a happy life together.

 

These Seven Vows are not merely promises, but these seven vows  are  the seven  wheels of  a married  life which helps to  make the journey of married life  a smooth ride to  take on . These seven vows are the recipe book of what we call “A Happy Married Life. The mantra of successful relationship is love, trust, respect and support and this is what these seven vows that we take are all about. So we must keep these seven wheels safe to enjoy the ride.Little roadblocks may come our way but it’s all about  moving on together  and the roadblocks makes us stronger and a little bump is sure to bring you more closer.